Familia, Preguntas

Question of the week: Sibling influence

Last week during Jaime Hernandez’s talk, I started to think of how my own siblings, especially my older brother, Danny, had influenced me. Jaime is one of 5 children (4 boys). He said both of his older brothers had influenced him, but when it came to comics and writing it was mainly Gilbert. Jaime spoke of Gilbert with the kind of admiration you admit to strangers, but never to your own sibling.

I’ve done the same thing. I’m pretty sure I’ve written kinder words about Danny, Lori and Adrian here than I’ve ever told them. I’ve also never thanked them for unknowingly influencing my interests and habits.

Danny is about 20 months older than me, but because of his December birthday, he was only one grade ahead. Because of this, we were often enrolled in the same childhood activities like baseball, children’s choir and ballet folkórico together. I don’t remember choosing those things, but being a shy kid, I enjoyed them much more because Danny was there. I chose to be an altar server because Danny had been one for a few years before. Similarly, I picked trombone in 7th grade because my brother and cousin Robert both played. I likely would not have been in band if I didn’t know about Danny’s experiences his freshman year. I was a shy and bookish kid, but Danny was outgoing. He helped me come out of my shell.

Lori is the reason I’m running the LA Marathon. She’s the reason I took to running two years ago. I’d run before, but without Lori’s advice and her encouragement, I probably would’ve picked another activity for exercise. I cheered on Lori at her first half and full marathons. At the San Diego Rock ‘n’ Roll Marathon in May ’09, I was at the finish line with her boyfriend at the time. I’m pretty sure I cried a little as she finished. I’m sure there are more ways she’s influenced me, but running is the first to come to mind.

Adrian and I share a lot in common (we’re both Virgos), but he’s also 5 years my junior and I’m less sure of how he’s influenced my interest. In writing this post, I could only think of Harry Potter and certain bands when it came to his influence. Maybe I’m not thinking hard enough, or maybe we’re already a lot alike.

La Pregunta: How have your interests or habits been influenced by a sibling?

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Listed

By the numbers

A year ago, Sean and I went on our first date. While singing along to the Bird and the Bee, I asked him to be my boyfriend. He agreed.

It’s been a fun 12 months. Some more numbers:

1 surprise visit; missed flight (that was me); cancelled flight thanks to a snowstorm (that was Sean, obviously)

2 races Sean attended to cheer me (and Lori) on

3 members of Sean’s immediate family I’ve met; baseball games we’ve attended together; museums we’ve visited; trips to the beach

4 animated movies we’ve seen together; we only watched one live-action movie (Inception)

5 ZogSports football games I attended to cheer on Sean and friends; comic books and graphic novels I’ve read per Sean’s recommendations

6 concerts attended together

7 photo sets of me spinning

8 trips we each to took to visit each other

9 years we’ve known each other

10 weeks since Sean moved to LA

40 number of Sean’s friends I met give or take a few

100 of my immediate and extended family members Sean thinks he’s met. It’s probably closer to 50.

227 days apart from March through December

586 songs on the Bicoastal Mixtape

53,270 JetBlue points earned between the two of us

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Blog/tech

Blog writer’s block

Happy TENTH blog birthday to Sean!

I’ve been dealing with blog-writer’s block. I go through this once in a while. It’s inevitable, after all I’ve been doing this 9+ years. Sometimes I feel like I’m out of stories to tell or don’t feel like sharing about new experiences. When I sit down to write a new post, it’s much more difficult than it used to be. I start posts and leave them in a draft folder for months. I talked about this with Sean, a fellow blogging veterano:

Me: did writing blog posts always feel like so much work?
Sean: No. It used to be easy
Me: I know! What happened? I think now I want to be more polished.
Sean: Too many other outlets for expression

I’m on those other outlets. So is he. They have their drawbacks, of course. It’s almost impossible to find an old Tweet and you’re limited to a few characters. Tumblr is frequently down, the search option is trash, archives are unwieldy and the comment function is lacking. I just realized that there’s no way to link to the beginning of a blog. There are all sorts of privacy issues with Facebook, and of course there is no functional archive for the user.

On the other hand, it’s much easier to post a link and say: “Hey read this! Fulanito has a really interesting take on Issue X. What do you think?” If I blogged something similar, I’d probably spend some time taking a chunk of Fulanito’s argument, and sandwiching it between some of my own commentary. I might even look for posts by fellow blogueros who have discussed Issue X and link to their posts. I can’t blog from my phone, but I can send and receive text message updates to Twitter and Facebook, quite useful for when I want to live-Tweet an event.

Still, It all comes back to function and interaction. You don’t need to be my friend or follow me to read my blog. You can just show up, read, poke around in the archives, comment if you like and move on. If you wanted, you could actually go back and see what I was talking about in March 2008 (who remembers la blogonovela?).

I miss my blog and the great things that come with it (feedback and interaction with new and long time readers). I’ve focused on running lately, but that’s mainly for me. I don’t know if anyone cares about my long runs. I don’t intend for this to become a “healthy living” blog where I document every workout, snack and meal. I do want to bring back old features, like “Mil Palabras” photos each Wednesday and the weekly question-centered posts. And of course, I need to get back to what I enjoy most and think I’m okay at, telling stories.

The Persian and Mexica new year is coming up. I can still make some resolutions.

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Fotos

Mil palabras: In conversation

I didn’t spend much time in the galleries on my most recent trip to the Getty Museum with Sean. Instead, we spent most of the warm January afternoon exploring the impressive gardens, finding the best views of the city and people watching.

I love watching people from afar, especially couples deep in conversation. I make up my own discussion based on facial expressions and body language. This guy seems distant as he looks off in to the horizon. She’s making an effort to get closer. Maybe she’s trying to convince him or reassure him of something. Perhaps she just told him that she was admitted to grad school up north, but their relationship will be okay. She’ll visit often. Or maybe she just asked him where he wants to have dinner or which exhibit they should visit next.

What do you think they’re talking about? Do you make up your own stories when you people watch (if you do so)?

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