Ojitos was a different kind of guy. Getting to know him was simultaneously new and familiar. At the same time I was learning more about him, I felt like he already knew me. I wondered if he’d read my blog. He was saying and doing all the right things.

I liked it, but it made me feel a bit uneasy. So I kept my guard up. While Ojitos would be frank and sweet, I’d be a little sarcastic not quite ready to show just how much I liked him.


H (cheese party hostess): How’s Ojitos?
Me: Cool. He’s super sweet and bit cheesy. The guys I date aren’t usually like that.
H: Well, he certainly seems like he likes you. He had to ask his friend for your info.
Me: I know, but it all makes me wonder. Is he sincere? Does he mean what he says? Or is he just spouting lines?
H: You’re probably overthinking it.
Me: What if he’s just being so nice and sweet because he’s trying to get in to my pants or needs a green card?
H: *gasp* I can’t believe you said that!
Me: It’s okay. I’m Mexican…
H: Still…
Me: It was a joke. I’m pretty sure he doesn’t need a green card. Okay, so how do I know?
H: You’ll just have to wait.


I didn’t have to wait long. A few hours after my frozen yogurt session with H, Ojitos admitted that he had been “kinda giddy” since he’d met me. That was enough for me.

After all, if I could have that effect on him, he had to be sincere.


6 thoughts on “Sincerity

  1. Hmmmm… a guy trying to get into a girls pants…… lol…

    For real tho, I think you just have that effect on all people whether they be guys or girls.

  2. its a great point about blogs. this hit me years ago. someone can spend hours reading all your intimate writings (even if online, we often can be very unguarded and real) and then know all the buttons to push and things to say. it can be creepy. its sort of like a celebrity who has a life and body of work out there, and forgets that people can study it. you have to be on your guard a bit. in general, i dont mean in your situation.

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